Gits of the shapeshifting friend.
Real. And this week I'm looking at the shape-shifter shape-shifting is always a change at the core. It's not pretending to be different, but it's actually becoming different. So there's a way in which all learning all growth, all change for the better or the worse is shape-shifting. The world is shape-shifting around us in every moment. Yeah. We have a tendency to look at the archetype of the shapeshifter with a great deal of skepticism. We often see films in which the best friend turns out to be the villain or the mentor turns out to be the evil dominator, but there can be other kinds of shape-shifting as well. Sometimes the ship shifter is a suspected villain that turns out to be a friend. In our actual day-to-day lives shift shifting often looks like reframing. So the shapeshifter in your personal world is that friend who can tell you why that terrible thing that happened to you is actually the best thing that could possibly have happened. Like all archetypes, the shapeshifter has its light aspect and its dark aspect, and it can be used in all sorts of ways. It can be used for personal gain. The ship shifter can be used for growth and development or like all things. The power of the shapeshifter can be harnessed for a higher purpose for heroism, for friendship, for love. Shape-shifters are all around us all the time. Advertisers, spin doctors, politicians, all shapeshifters people who try to prove that the world can be seen from a different perspective or that what we believe is a reality can be looked at differently and seen as a different reality. Well, it's true that all types of storytelling can be used to propagate. And we are going to do our best on the show to figure out how to not buy into the ones that are alive, how to differentiate the lies from the truths shape-shifting is not lying. Shape-shifting is a genuine change as a cellular level of something that is happening in the world. It is true change. It is true growth. That is true development. At its core shape-shifting is illuminating a new, true, a perspective that said, let's look at some stories. In Hindu mythology, there are three primary gods. Brahma is the God of creation. Shiva is the God of destruction and Vishnu is the God of eternity or everlasting life. One of the two most important books in Hindu mythology is the Ramayana and in the Ramayana. We have a story of Vishnu that God of eternity incarnating, so that he can enter the physical realm and deal with a character named Robinah. Robinah begins this very, very long story as a duo T of Shiva. So I'm going to be skipping at a whole lot in the story. This is not going to be the entire Ramayana Rovena. Is born falls in love with Shiva and decides to devote himself to him. He spends 10,000 years doing austerities austerities can mean anything from sitting in meditation. To as Rovena did cutting off one's head again and again, in the hope that the God will descend and put your head back on for you. After 10,000 years, Shiva decides that Rovena has really done a good job and shows up and says, yo, dude, you need a perk. And Ravenna asks for immortality. Shiva says no, and actually puts him through several more tests, but Brahma eventually goes ahead and gives Rovena immortality. As it relates to gods and as it relates to animals. So the caveat is that Robin can still be killed by humans. Rovena then goes about his business. He becomes king. He rules the world. He does lots of really great stuff. But then, you know, he gets bored because people get bored and say, well, he wants to shake it up a bit. And so he starts hanging out with a few bad apples and things are starting to look like they're not so under control anymore. And at this point, Vishnu thinks, oh, I better step in just in case something goes awry here. So Vishnu incarnates as Rama and he enters the world as well. So skipping ahead a lot. Again, we have all of Rama growing up and eventually Ramah finds himself wandering the woods with his brother luck mana after he has married the love of his life SITA. So SITA happens to be a way when Rama and lunch miner run into Robin, his sister ser Panaca. SERP Hanukkah, Robin, a sister falls immediately and madly in love with Rama. She must have Rama, but Rama says, Noah, I'm sorry. You're not my type. And I madly in love with my wife SITA. And sir, panickers not thrilled about that, but she moves along and she goes to lock Shamana. Oh, you, you are the man for me, but luck Shamana says owner. Just no surprise guy happens to be by all accounts, strangely unattractive in addition to having an evil heart. So when she's rejected by both Rama and LA Samana, she decides that this is not about her. This is about. And so she goes after SITA and she attacks her Rama and lush mana defend, see that. And in doing so cut off, knows that girl really never likes to have her nose cut off. So she goes to her big brother Rovena and she says, Robin, uh, you have to help me. And Robin is that clear? I don't have to help you please. Nope, not going to help you. So then she comes back a day or so later and says, I don't want your help or anything, but I just want you to know how incredibly fabulous Cedar was. Cedar was the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. She had a heart of gold. You would love Cedar. In fact, I felt really concerned that you don't have such an incredibly wonderful woman in your life and really you deserve see. Of all people, SITA should be yours and she compels him. And so Rovena becomes obsessed with SITA. He must have SITA. First Rovena goes and he attempts to seduce SITA. But to know. So he kind of goes stocking her through the forest. Meanwhile, Ramah and Luk Shamana have caught onto the fact that Cedar perhaps is in peril here. And so they've left her alone in a hut and they've put a magical boundary around it, telling her not to come. But of course, Rovena is able to get her to come out. He transforms himself into the world's most beautiful golden DOE and he taunts her just outside of the circle. It was a very feminine energy. He essentially attracts SITA out of her own protective boundaries so that he can kidnapper and go running off. There's much more to the story. The point is that Robin is able to transform himself Rovena, who is a very manual. Kind of king who has been ruling over people has also done 10,000 years of austerities. He's really built up his own self-awareness and his own self knowledge. So he behaves in a way that is completely transformative. Instead of being his kingly discerning over-powering self, he turns into a very feminine, beautiful. Creature that is able to attract to see that out. He gets what he wants by being different. It's important to note that he is not pretending to be different. He really becomes the dog. We can use shape-shifting to change, not who we appear to be in the world, but who we are in the world, so that we're able to get more than we would be. Otherwise we can change who we are in the world in order to get what it is that we want. It's important to note that when this pertains to reality, We can change ourselves into things that we never thought we wanted to be. And now we're going to shake it up and move over to Greece and our goddess of the hour. Is Athena Athena totally rocks. Athena is the goddess of war and strategy. Her mother is Metis and Metis is intuitive wisdom experience or the ability to understand by understanding a variety of perspectives. So medicine's insightful wisdom and Athena uses her insightful. To understand what is happening and create strategies for moving forward. She is a warrior. Athena also happens to be in charge of spinning and weaving, spinning, and weaving is an external, feminine energy in ancient Greece. So women would sit at home, they would spin and they would weave. You're going to hear about it in all the stories. There are people spinning and weaving in the background. That's because that's how they created value for their families. They would create beautiful things and then they would go out and they would barter them with one another for other beautiful things. This was really the development of income. And so it was the way that women got out in the world and essentially embraced and used their personal power in order to support their families. So this is part of Athena is territory because it's part of the warrior aspect of the feminine. Athena as the goddess naturally is the world's best spinner and waver. However, there's a young woman named Arachni and Arachni has spun and woven since she was a wee wee, wee baby. And she is incredibly good at it. She makes the most beautiful tapestries that anyone has ever seen there. It's phenomenal. People come from all over the land and to see her tapestries and to buy her tapestries, which bring enormous amounts of money. And everyone tells her how incredibly beautiful they are and how much they love her tapestries, how it makes it look like the wind is blowing and how you can almost see the waves lapping on the shore when she makes these incredibly beautiful things. And she starts to take it a little personally and be like, yeah, yeah, I am the best. And one day she takes it as far as to note that she is better than the goddess herself. Now, this was always going to go somewhere bad. Anytime anybody says they're better than a God or goddess, like bad things are going to happen. That's all. So Athena obviously overhears this and incarnates, she incarnates as an old woman. And she comes up to a Rockne who she does, like, because you know, you got to remember that she is into spinning and weaving. She really has great respect for this art. And so this girl is doing a fantastic job. She does care about. Nonetheless as an old woman, she remarks, certainly you are not better than the goddess, but Arachni stands by. It says, yes, indeed. I am better than the goddess. And then in that moment, Athena reveals herself as a God. Which is worth noting does not kill anyone, many gods and goddesses feel themselves as such and suddenly everyone drops dead, but not in this instance. So Athena is tempering her destructive powers while she reveals herself as a goddess. And she challenges a Rackner. Okay. Right here right now, babe, we're going to see who is the better spinner. And they both take to their looms and Athena weaves an incredibly beautiful tapestry. She's actually pulling the clouds from the sky and she's picking up the colors of the sunset and she's putting them all into these gorgeous, vibrant scenes. And all of the scenes are about the vindictiveness of the gods. And Athena is tapestry. It shows Athena and Poseidon vying for Athens. Athens had a competition between the gods to see which one they would give their loyalty to Poseidon showed up and made them a very beautiful saltwater fountain in the middle of the sea. But they thought we don't really need a salt water fountain, as beautiful as that is. And then the Athena that showed up and she gave them the olive tree and they of course, went out to make incredible amounts of money and prestige in their lives by creating olive oil. So they gave the city to Athena. So it shows Athena as the Victor right in the center of the tapestry. Then the tapestry goes on to show Athena punishing Medusa. It shows a king and queen of race who had compared themselves to Zeus and Hara and were therefore transformed into mountains. It shows the pygmy queen who boasted that she was more beautiful than Hara and who was immediately transformed into a stork. And then her entire people were set out to hunter for eternity. It shows Antigony of Troy who said that her hair was more lovely than Harrah's and then Harrit turned her into a crane. And it shows a king weeping on stone steps after his daughters are taken from him after he offends the gods. And the whole thing is a woven together in a beautiful border of olive branches. Once again, reinforcing Athena's supremacy and everyone thinks that this is incredibly beautiful. It's just a gorgeous tapestry and they applaud to no end. And then they turn towards the Rackner is tapestry. And there's a rack. These tapestry. And on her tapestry, which is also stunning, it's filled with beautiful vivid colors that no one thought one could even reproduce. And you can see the motion in it as if it's coming to life. Arachni tapestry is the most gorgeous thing anyone has ever seen, and it is all about the ridiculousness of the gods. It shows zoos desperately attempting to seduce young women by becoming a variety of things. A beam of light, a Swan, a bull, an Eagle. It shows Poseidon and Medusa behaving inappropriately in Athena's temple. It shows a Paulo chasing after a young woman who turns herself into a tree rather than give him a Smoot. And it shows Diane ISS behaving. So drunkenly, he can't even stand to seduce someone. And the entire thing is wrapped in a border of Ivy, indicating that it is all tied up. And everyone looks at it and gasps, how could she do this? This is not going to be okay. But at the end of stands up and says, okay, everyone vote, who has the more beautiful tapestry. And they go back and forth from one to the other and they're comparing them. But the fact is that they are both incredibly beautiful. Meanwhile Arachni who had been busy working on her own tapestry, really inspects Athena's tapestry. And she's see. All of the retributions of the gods and she thinks this is going to be my fate. It is going to be a fate worse than yes. And in thinking she feels humiliated and guilty and she understands that she has moved outside of her proper place in the world. She gets her beautiful silken threads and she makes the most attractive news anyone has ever seen. She throws it over the bow of a branch and she hangs herself as a Thena goes on about the beauty of the tapestry. Athena looks over and sees Arachni is dangling from the tree. And she thinks that's not quite what I wanted. That's going too far. The girl is beautiful and she does beautiful work. And I do want to punish her, but not like that. And so Athena steps in, and as Arachni dangles, she transforms her from a girl into a spider. And tells her that from now on, she must spin forever, the most beautiful tapestries in the world that few will ever notice Irakli has retained her power and her beauty and the wonderful thing that she did so well that Athena loved in her so much, but she has lost the ability to boast about it. So Athena has shaped, shifted around. Into the spreader. It's pretty clear that Arachni who is now a spider is going to be at her core in her nature, quite different than she was before her spider experience. Since stories, people have God like powers, they have superhuman strength. They can do all sorts of things that I can not do in my immediate life because my personal one does not work that way. However human beings have kind of a magical thing about us and that we only notice what we understand. We're completely ignorant about much of the world because we don't get it. So we just ignore it. That's the way we. If we know something well enough to magnify it into an important aspect of a story, then I guarantee that we can do it to some extent, so we can shift ourselves and we can shape shift our own world. Just not with ones, the way that we shape. Is by changing our perspective by changing the way that we see things. And then by changing the way that we do things. So let's say the thing that I want to shape shift is the fact that there's a person in my life who isn't listening to me. And this really irritates me. It's very upsetting to me that this person is not listening to me. I really want her to listen. I keep trying to talk to her. What I would like to do is whip out my magic wand and just magically make her listen, magically, make her understand what it is that I need to convey. It's actually okay with me. If she never gets on board with me, if she never agrees, that's fine, but I really want her to listen and hear it. And that's not happening right now. I can't do that. I don't actually have power over other people in my immediate surroundings, nicest, that would be, I only have power over myself, so I have to change the other component of the problem. She is not listening to me. And that bothers me. So instead of concentrating on, she is not listening to me. I need to concentrate on that. Bothers me. Why is it that it bothers me that she is not listening to me? At least in my own world, I guarantee that it bothers me because I do it. Nothing. I don't do bothers me. It's that human superpower again, if I didn't do it, I wouldn't understand it. Therefore I wouldn't notice it. And it wouldn't bother me. The fact that it bothers me means I do it the way that I can diminish the amount that it bothers me is by dealing with the way that I do. So she's not listening to me. It bothers me. How am I not listening to me? And how can I make that? Not bother me. I am not listening to me because I never have enough time. I really love doing things. And many things seem really important to me. And I am always over committed. I really want to do more and more and more. And so I constantly drive myself to do more. I do not listen when I need a break. I totally roll over myself and power through it. If I got in the habit of just getting up, when I wanted a break walking around the block, walking over to the park, coming back five or 10 minutes later, calm. Able to actually think again and move things forward. I would be so much more reasonable. So I start doing it and I realized that I'm much calmer. I'm much nicer. When I show up to talk to the same person, again, I'm able to be more present. I'm no longer anxious. And if she doesn't listen to me, it doesn't really bother me. She doesn't have to take care of me now because I'm taking care of myself. She doesn't really need to listen to me cause I am listening to myself. On the other hand, the irony is she's actually more likely to listen to me. She's more likely to listen to me because I am calmer because I am more rational because I am taking care of myself. So it can be that by shape-shifting myself internally. I actually shaped shift her internally, where she genuinely changes the way that she behaves towards, or she might not. I remember John Kelly is talking about writing the life of Brian and how not funny Jesus's and the fact that humor actually depends on people behaving in ways that are irrational. So something is fun. When a person is behaving in a way that has nothing to do with their external environment, but only has to do with their internal environment. So I know that if I show up completely differently, if I'm now calm and I'm cool and I'm taken care of, and I'm fine. And she continues to act really defensively and hostily, it has nothing to do with me. She is reacting to something that is happening inside herself, which is none of my business and which I have no control over, but I have still completely shaped shifted her because not only do I recognize that this is not my problem and it has nothing to do with me, everyone around us can see that too. Well, I was behaving all anxious and all stressed out. Then it looked like her defensiveness was appropriate, but when I show up being all calm and cool and collected and everything is no big deal and I'm not taking it personally, and she's still behaving all defensively. Everyone understands that the problem is now about her interaction with the world and not mine. So I've completely shaped, shifted my own external reality in addition to my own internal reality and that my friends is the shape-shifting for personal gain. Next up shape-shifting for growth and development. Have a great day.